There are times in a person's life when whole world seems to go against him, nothing goes according to the plan, all people turn their backs and it seems like all the energy, zeal and confidence is lost and the person looks down and asks the obvious - Am I a Failure?
Every part and aspect of life has been coined in pairs like Good/Bad, Action/Reaction, Happiness/Sorrow, etc. But as a normal behavior humans always tend to overlook the murkier part of the coin and always find themselves engaged in the brighter side of the coin. But still life is full of all colors with different shades to it. That’s the reason there are sometimes success in life and sometimes failures. Now, the only question that came to my mind while thinking on this was – Why Do we fail? The instant and obvious Questions that would tend to answer this Question would be - Is it the lack of efforts that pulls us down? Is it someone else being better than us? Is it things that didn’t go the way we wanted them to? It’s like a whole new book that can be written on the causes of failures. But when I carefully thought on the granular level I got a very different and quite strange answer – “Fear of Failure”.
I thought very hard on this and found some contemporary facts, which every single individual on this earth would have sometime or the other in his life wanted to think of.
Most of the times we fail in our life not because of the fact that we didn’t put our 100% efforts or someone was better than us, but mostly due to the reason that we feared failing. Just think of one of your failures and think what if someone would have come to you and would have said “You are free to fail” I bet the outcome would have been different. I am sure that if any time in our life when we had a tough time and if someone would have said, “You are free to do whatever you want and do not fear the result” we would have done wonders. Ofcourse we could have failed there also, but we would have played the match with the confidence we never had earlier. There is a very strong bond between “Being Yourself” and “Fear of failure”. If anytime in your life you dint fear failure, then that was the time when you were completely yourself. That was the time when you had stopped thinking of the outcomes and failures and you were in the arena with the only motive of being yourself and getting to the best of it.
I realized that the greatest treasure of life lies with Failure rather than with Success. It is – A chance to do better, A chance to be what you wanted to be, A Chance to go back and make things right. I realized that failure is just a word unless we attach positive/negative to it. The moment we start thinking failure as a negative aspect we stop thinking beyond failure. But when we are ready to look beyond the failure and treat failure as another chance, we start making our life better. We start thinking of innovation and we start to think what we never would have thought.
I guess, if somewhere in anyone’s life people would think the way I am able to, they would always be able to answer the Question – Am I a Failure? I guess the people would be able to answer the question with a positive reply.
Every part and aspect of life has been coined in pairs like Good/Bad, Action/Reaction, Happiness/Sorrow, etc. But as a normal behavior humans always tend to overlook the murkier part of the coin and always find themselves engaged in the brighter side of the coin. But still life is full of all colors with different shades to it. That’s the reason there are sometimes success in life and sometimes failures. Now, the only question that came to my mind while thinking on this was – Why Do we fail? The instant and obvious Questions that would tend to answer this Question would be - Is it the lack of efforts that pulls us down? Is it someone else being better than us? Is it things that didn’t go the way we wanted them to? It’s like a whole new book that can be written on the causes of failures. But when I carefully thought on the granular level I got a very different and quite strange answer – “Fear of Failure”.
I thought very hard on this and found some contemporary facts, which every single individual on this earth would have sometime or the other in his life wanted to think of.
Most of the times we fail in our life not because of the fact that we didn’t put our 100% efforts or someone was better than us, but mostly due to the reason that we feared failing. Just think of one of your failures and think what if someone would have come to you and would have said “You are free to fail” I bet the outcome would have been different. I am sure that if any time in our life when we had a tough time and if someone would have said, “You are free to do whatever you want and do not fear the result” we would have done wonders. Ofcourse we could have failed there also, but we would have played the match with the confidence we never had earlier. There is a very strong bond between “Being Yourself” and “Fear of failure”. If anytime in your life you dint fear failure, then that was the time when you were completely yourself. That was the time when you had stopped thinking of the outcomes and failures and you were in the arena with the only motive of being yourself and getting to the best of it.
I realized that the greatest treasure of life lies with Failure rather than with Success. It is – A chance to do better, A chance to be what you wanted to be, A Chance to go back and make things right. I realized that failure is just a word unless we attach positive/negative to it. The moment we start thinking failure as a negative aspect we stop thinking beyond failure. But when we are ready to look beyond the failure and treat failure as another chance, we start making our life better. We start thinking of innovation and we start to think what we never would have thought.
I guess, if somewhere in anyone’s life people would think the way I am able to, they would always be able to answer the Question – Am I a Failure? I guess the people would be able to answer the question with a positive reply.
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